So you go to the coffee shop before work to grab some coffee and maybe a bagel, while standing in line you spot this gorgeous girl (probably the most gorgeous girl you’ve ever seen) and you decide to pay for her coffee and start-up a convo. A few minutes into the convo, you realize you two have a ton in common and you’d like to take her out on a date. You’re nervous, but when you ask her out she says yes. Congratulations…..but now what?
Here’s where I come in to play. This is my list of Do’s and Don’ts of the first date.
Do: Be On Time
If you say “I’ll pick you up at 7”, your butt better be there at 7 (earlier would be better). It’s perfectly fine for a girl to be fashionably late because she’s getting ready, but unfortunately you have no excuse.
Don’t: Overkill On The Cologne
You want to make her think “Mmmmm, he smells good” not choke her to death. If I can taste your cologne just from breathing in the air around you…you have way too much on.
Do: Something Creative
Pick a date that is creative….like a picnic at sunset or making dinner yourself. Chances are she’s been on plenty of ‘dinner and a movie’ dates, and after a while those get old. Don’t be afraid to stand out and do something different, chances are she’ll remember your date and the time and effort you put into it.
Don’t: Tell Her Where You’re Going On Your Date
Keep the mystery a little bit, it makes the date itself more intriguing. Obviously if she’s a picky eater or has a life threatening allergy, you’d want to tell her…..but otherwise zip the lip. (Makes it more fun) And when you get there, tell her the reason why you picked it…if they have a certain dish that they are known for..etc. I’m sure you’ll come up with something.
Don’t: Go Crazy
Follow the ‘do’ above, but don’t go overboard. Don’t line the hallways with rose petals or do anything overly romantic. If it’s a girl you just met, it’ll probably creep her out (not gunna lie, it looks like you’re trying too hard). Obviously if it’s a girl you met a while back and have liked her for a while, then it’s a little more appropriate (but still don’t go crazy). Also, don’t spend a ton of money….it’s a first date kid, don’t blow the bank.
Don’t: Push The Whole Sleeping Over Idea
Honestly, have some class. If you’re looking for a hookup, go to a college party. A girl you take out on a date is a girl you should show respect to. Let her decide what she wants to do.
Do: Act Like A Gentleman
Prove to her that chivalry is not dead. I can’t express how much respect I give to the guys that act like a gentleman. Opening and holding a door isn’t that hard. And in fact, you should be doing stuff like this all the time anyway. Show respect to all women out there.
Do: Use Table Manners
If you do bring her to a restaurant, please don’t eat your food like a lion attacking a gazelle. They give you plenty of napkins, use them. There is nothing more disgusting than a guy who gets more food on his face/shirt/table than in his mouth. Usually ladies will giggle and poke fun at you if you’re a little messy……but don’t be as messy as a 2-year-old with Spaghettios.
Don’t: Be Cocky
I get the whole wanting to impress your date thing, but there’s a way to go about it. Bragging endlessly about your accomplishments, cars, businesses, money….etc, it’s honestly not attractive (it may be attractive to a gold digger, but chances are you don’t want that). Personally, I’d want to be impressed by your overall personality, humor is a big part. So, just make sure you tone it down a bit and let your true colors show through as much as possible.
Do: Ask Her Questions
Honestly, seem interested in her. If you talk about yourself the entire date, it would be more like an interview. Play that ridiculous ’20 questions’ game where you ask the most random questions and learn random things about each other. It sounds dumb, but it creates the opportunity to have some interesting convos. For example: You ask “What’s your favorite food”. She replies “Chicken parmigiana“ You say “That’s my fave too. (insert restaurant name here) makes the BEST chicken parmigiana. We should go there sometime.” Not only did you learn her favorite food, you found out you have something in common AND have now created an idea for a second date.
Do: Kiss Her Goodnight
Now, this is the tricky part. I always say on the first date play it safe and aim for the cheek. If she turns her head and your lips touch, voila. But don’t force it. I find a kiss on the cheek or a kiss on the forehead to be much more meaningful on a first date than a smooch on the lips (it goes along with the whole respect/act like a gentleman thing….google it).
Do: Call Her
If you say “I’ll call you later”, stick to your word….otherwise you’ll lose her. None of that playing hard to get stuff (we call that ‘head games’ nowadays).