This week I want to talk about a few things that we all hear about a lot; the friend zone and the lack of “good guys”. I figured instead of giving a select few advice on this topic, I’d share it with all of you. Enjoy.
ps. I just finished a very very long finals week & my brain is FRIED. So if something doesn’t make sense or spelled wrong or something of the like, I will fix it after I get some sleep.
I hear all my guy friends complaining about being in “the friend zone” and it frustrates me. From a girl’s perspective, it’s pretty simple. We put you in the friend zone for a reason, either A) we value your friendship more than any possible relationship B) if we take the risk and get into a relationship and it falls through, then we’d lose that friend or things would get awkward or C) you’re just not our type. That’s why when they say “all the nice guys are in the friend zone where you left them.” it’s not true. Not all friend zoned guys are ‘nice’. The only thing I can suggest for all of you who are forever zoned is to be patient or try going after a different type of girl. I’m a firm believer that there’s a piece to fit every puzzle, you just have to find it.
It’s not you, it’s me
Now ladies, don’t think you’ll get off easy with this. I hear all my friends, myself included, complaining about how there are no good guys left. “I always get my head played with…” “No guys ever treat me right…” Ladies, ladies, ladies. Learn to be PROACTIVE! Obviously if the same things keep happening over and over again, something needs to change. YOU need to change something because obviously the guys won’t change. Turn all of that negativity into something positive. (I obviously need to learn to take my own advice). The problem isn’t men (okay, well maybe they’re part of it). The problem is our horrible judgment when it comes to searching for boyfriends, myself included. If you sit back and think about how horrible your ‘luck’ is, you’ll see a pattern between each guy and each heartbreak. Think about every similar quality between the groups of exes and then change your dating criteria to be the total opposite of what you had before. It’s worth a try, what do you have to lose?
Remember that this is also an Ask Sarah column. You want advice? I’ll give it (no sugar coating included).